It’s important to know that unless your partner has been assessed by a professional, you can’t say for sure whether they are a narcissist. However, if you find yourself constantly feeling dismissed, emotionally drained, manipulated, or like your needs don’t matter—then this blog can hopefully help you. If your relationship makes you feel small, unseen, or like you’re walking on eggshells, then you’re dealing with something unhealthy.
Regardless of whether your partner is truly narcissistic or just emotionally unavailable, the real question is: How do you stay in this relationship without losing yourself? (And if you'd like to see what the difference is between narcissist or avoidant attached, read the blog on it here).
Here are six key ways to protect your emotional well-being while navigating a difficult relationship:
1. Reclaim Your Identity
Narcissistic partners tend to make everything about them, which can leave you feeling invisible. You may have lost touch with what you enjoy or who you are outside of the relationship. But you are more than someone’s partner.
Reconnect with hobbies and passions that light you up.
Surround yourself with people who genuinely appreciate and respect you.
Remind yourself daily: I am worthy. I matter. My needs are important.
2. Set Boundaries That Protect You (for Coping with Narcissistic Partners)
Narcissists often push boundaries, testing how much they can get away with. The key is to set clear, firm boundaries—and stick to them.
Instead of saying, "You need to stop yelling at me," say: "If you raise your voice, I will leave the conversation."
Don’t get drawn into justifying yourself. You don’t owe explanations for protecting your peace.
Follow through—if you don’t enforce a boundary, it’s just a suggestion. So take time to think about what you can do, before you say something you don't plan on following through on.
3. Take Care of Your Nervous System
Constant emotional stress can leave your body in survival mode. You have to actively calm your nervous system so you’re not running on empty.
Use deep breathing to reset your stress response.
Try grounding techniques (like feeling your feet on the floor or naming five things you see).
Prioritize rest, movement, and moments of peace—your well-being matters.
4. Stay Connected to Safe People
One of the biggest ways toxic relationships keep you stuck is through isolation. Don’t let that happen.
Keep close to friends and family who see you clearly.
Find support groups or a coach/therapist who understands what you're going through.
You don’t have to handle this alone—and you shouldn’t.
5. Trust Your Own Intuition
Gaslighting can make you doubt your reality. But your feelings are real. Your experiences are valid.
If something feels off, trust that.
If you feel disrespected, you don’t need permission to speak up.
If you’re constantly questioning if you’re “overreacting,” ask yourself: Would I tell my best friend to tolerate this?
6. Get a Therapist
A therapist can help you:
Set and maintain boundaries without guilt.
Recognize unhealthy patterns in your relationship.
Heal any deeper wounds that made this dynamic feel “normal” in the first place.
Support is not a luxury—it’s a necessity when navigating an emotionally draining relationship, like coping with narcissistic partners.
A Final Word: You Are Not Stuck, and You Are Not Alone
This is not about saying you have to stay. And it’s definitely not about saying you deserve this. When your esteem is down, and your reality blurred, it can feel like there aren't many options (if any). But there are different ways through this. Please get yourself a therapist, even if you feel he / she is the problem.
Divorce is not the cause of broken homes—it’s often a symptom of a broken relationship dynamic.
If you need help, please get support. You don’t have to go through this alone. Whether you stay or go, you deserve emotional safety, peace, and love that feels good—not love that makes you question your worth.
Disclaimer: The information provided here is for general informational purposes only and should not be considered as therapy or a substitute for professional counseling. If you’re in need of therapy or emotional support, please consult with a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized guidance tailored to your specific situation.
Written by Tehilla Luttig
The Relationship Fairy Godmother
Former play-therapist who discovered that helping the parents often created the most lasting impact on the kids, Tehilla now coaches individuals and couples globally, helping them reclaim their joy in love, life, and relationships. Because happy parents lead to happy, thriving families.
Tehilla’s focus is on healing the relationships with our past and ourselves, building emotional capacity, and equipping clients with a multi-disciplinary, psychology-based toolbox for personal growth and transformation.
Mom, wife, writer, speaker, licensed counselor, and coach—Tehilla is passionate about helping us heal from the past, rebuild emotional resilience and self-trust, and thrive in life and love.
Disclaimer: The information shared in this blog is for educational purposes only and should not be considered therapy. For personal guidance, please consult a licensed therapist or counselor.
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